Hi I’m Dr. Mcayla Sarno
In my last video blog I shared some of the components to what makes good therapy. Now I want to address with you some of the concerns that people have once they’ve actually found their right fit. Because when everything lines up it becomes real. So what does that mean?
Well, it means your going to need to be very authentic, very honest, and risk trusting your therapist with your feelings. And that may sound easy but when your in the hot seat that can feel scary. But I want you to know that it’s only scary when you’re not working with someone you’ve already deemed to be a good fit.
Sometimes that happens but it still takes some time to continue to feel the therapist out and that’s okay as a matter of fact I encourage you to take that time. As long as you are jelling keep taking those baby steps because there are many parts of you in that therapy session. And all of those parts are going to need to trust. In other words there may be deeper parts of you that may require a little more time. So assuming you’ve found the right therapist it’s super important that you not put a time limit on your therapy process. Now, I know what thinking. What if its expensive, what if I don’t have the time to devote to weeks and weeks. And I’m not suggesting that it will require an extended period of time however, if you begin the process with an expectation of time you’ll sabotage your journey.
You really want to decide from the very beginning if your in or your out and if your in, and you’ve found the right fit then do your best to trust in the process. Sure, your therapist can give you a suggested time frame based on a treatment plan but it’s impossible to know what’s going to come up in session and depending your history there may need to be multiple therapeutic strategies to address your current challenge. But you do have a lot of control over how your therapy will go by asking questions such as, why does this happen? Why do I do this? Where does this come from? Can this change permanently and if so how? Ask your therapist how they see change occurring not only with you but in general? Ask your therapist what modality of therapy they use?
For basic life challenges Cognitive behavioral therapy may work. For relationships issues there should be some attachment work that may need to be done. For trauma they may need to implement modalities that desensitize and or address the subconscious mind such as EMDR which also works with habits and stuck patterns of behavior. Ask your therapist specifically how the modality they use addresses your challenge and invokes change. Take control of your therapy and make it work for you! Good Luck and for now here’s to living!